Doing his job

Now I am applying Byron Katie’s inquiry process to my thoughts about the dog  (we have not abandoned training or expert help). For example, “Finn shouldn’t still be so reactive toward other dogs.”    Is this true? Can I absolutely know it’s true? Of course not. The fact that I wish he’d settle down doesn’t make it so.

How do I feel when I think the thought, “Finn should be over this by now”? The usual: discouraged.

Is there a stress free reason to hang onto the thought? No. There isn’t.

Turn it around: Finn shouldn’t be over this. Finn is doing exactly what he’s supposed to be doing. What if it’s his job to be the way he is? Or, by the way, for my sister to be the way she is?  

 

6 thoughts on “Doing his job

    1. deemallon Post author

      I love her process because 1) it’s free 2) it’s very accessible 3) it works 4) it’s a thinking process, which suits an Aquarian — and that also means it can be done while driving, waiting in grocery line, etc. (sometimes writing it down matters for me, though) 5) its effects are cumulative and 6) like many healing processes, you don’t have to believe it will work for it to work.

      Her story is pretty inspiring. She has a good website.

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  1. nicolemichellehill

    My dog is more reactive to dogs than I would like as well…something he did not start until he was about 3. Something I just manage the best I can and work with as much as possible….bc they are who they are 🙂

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    1. deemallon Post author

      Thanks for your comment. I am getting to that place of acceptance too. I sure hope it doesn’t get any worse when Finn turns three, though!

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